Love making in full light might be appealing to men (and
some women), but for the sake of relaxation (and ultimately
orgasm) the lights must be dim. This can be accomplished with candles, but I personally
prefer a simple bedside lamp with an incandescent light
bulb (too paranoid something might catch on fire!)
The very first thing that draws your partners’ attention to
you is eye contact. Her response to the right kind of eye
contact is automatic: attraction.
The level of attraction can vary from women to women. Eye
contact can simply spark a bit of sexual interest to full
blown sexual desire where she’s physically aroused and
wants to have sex with you.
Generally, making and holding eye contact with someone else
shows that you’re at ease with the other person, and that
How do you approach your lover?
You probably enter into sex with the mindset and goal of “giving her pleasure.”
It’s this approach that leads too many guys on a wild goose
chase for the “perfect” strokes and techniques. It leaves
you blindly seeking out every tip and trick out there,
furiously testing them out on your lover.
I don’t know where that saying that the way to a man’s heart is through his
stomach started, but unless you only asked men living in a retirement community,
I don’t think you’ll find the majority in agreement. And I’m not sure
that even the seniors would give their vote.
In our society, more people are willing to engage in sexual activity together
than to talk about it, and a good deal of the blame for sexually transmitted
diseases comes from this failure to communicate.
