The real cure for premature ejaculation is for you to be able to recognize the
premonitory sensation. What is that, you ask? The premonitory sensation is
that feeling that a man gets just before he reaches the point of no return, also
called the moment of inevitability.
Each man has a certain threshold of pleasure; after he crosses it, he can’t stop
his orgasm. A fire engine may go through the bedroom, and he would still have
an orgasm and ejaculate. But, right before he reaches that point, if he so
desires, he can cool the fires and not ejaculate. And if he wants to abandon his
status as premature ejaculator, he must learn to identify this sensation.
How do you learn to recognize this premonitory sensation? By treating your
orgasm with kid gloves and approaching it very carefully. You can’t imitate
the Road Runner, heading for the edge of a cliff at full throttle, and then apply
the brakes and stop just before you fall off the edge. With that approach,
you’re more likely to wind up like Wile E. Coyote, who always chases right
after the Road Runner. He can never seem to stop in time and ends up racing
over the cliff and plummeting into the canyon.
The idea, then, is to learn how to slow down the process before you get too
close to the edge. Exactly how you do this depends on several factors, the
biggest being whether you have a cooperative partner, with the emphasis on
cooperative. Someone you’ve had sex with only a few times, and not very satisfactory
sex at that, may not be willing to be as supportive as you need. But
if you have someone who loves you, and who wants to make your sex life
together better, then you’re probably well on your way to curing the problem.
Although curing premature ejaculation as a couple may be easier, making
progress alone isn’t impossible. In other words, you can practice recognizing
the premonitory sensation through masturbation and begin to develop some
control. (Not every man can learn this control by himself because a woman’s
presence causes some men to get overexcited in the first place.) Practicing
this technique alone probably takes more effort and more self-control, but it’s
certainly worth your time.
