Women (or men either, for that matter) don’t instantly go
from a state of high anxiety to one of total relaxation.
It’s a process. And just like so many other processes,
there are particular steps and phases that need to be
explored…

Stage 1: Physical Relaxation

To bring the physical body into a state of relaxation, a
combination of deep breathing and massage can begin to chip
away at the multiple stresses that we accumulate on a dayto-
day basis. Physical relaxation is the first step, and it
is important. But there’s more to total relaxation than
merely relieving muscular tensions…

Stage 2: Relaxing our “Energy System”

Whether you call it an aura, a force field, or our natural
electricity, each of us runs off a subtle energy network
that fuels both our bodies and our minds. Many alternative
therapies have reported supporting claims that a great deal
of all of our physical ailments stem from disturbances in
our personal energy networks.
You’ll know you’re progressing well through these steps
when your lover begins to sense heaviness spreading through
her limbs and then the rest of her body. In this stage,
help your lover concentrate on her breathing. Have her
imagine peace and tranquility flooding in with each inhale
and stress and tension escaping on the exhale…

Stage 3: Relaxation of the Mind and the Senses

Once you’ve cleared stage two, you want to begin working on
your lover’s mental and emotional stress. This can be
accomplished through touch and communication.
During this stage, your lover may notice a feeling of
lightness – maybe even to the point that she feels as
though she’s floating. On closer inspection, you’ll
probably notice that the length of each exhale has grown
longer…These signs mean you’ve reached a point of deep
relaxation.

Yoga practitioners include an additional two stages of
relaxation, but these are aimed more at joining the
Universal Consciousness than sexual satisfaction…